[galligator]

I do think that for most women, it is such a norm for our gender that women rarely consider heels to the point of it actually reaching 'fetish' state. It's another fashion accessory that happens to incidentally emphasize legs and make a lot of us feel more 'feminine'. We like 'looking better & taller in skirts' as an example.

From what little I have read, the majority of men who wear women's shoe are 'straight' and may have a variety of reasons for wearing these shoes - from aesthetic preferences to more fetishitic associations. That is a lot of issues particularly for many female partners in a relationship to sometimes deal with, especially if she is super traditional or conservative; it may be seen as threatening to her even if she doesn't consciously understand why she feels that way, or even that this is how she is reacting.

It may seem silly that clothing choice could affect relationships, but right or wrong, some apparel carry strong gender associations of masculine/feminine & not everyone can easily work past that.

Just some thoughts.