Re: Wide toe box shoe/boot for men?
Well, I can't sympathize with the hunt for men's shoes, but I can certainly sympathize with having feet that are wider than many shoes. And my mother had Morton's neuroma (also from narrow pinching shoes) and went through this some years back.
I would have suggested Birkenstock, but if they've given you problems, obviously don't go there. You could try Mephisto, which makes a variety of really great walking shoes and dress shoes. Some tend toward the narrow side, but I think that's more of an issue in their women's shoes than their men's, so you might be all right.
Mephisto would be my top recommendation, but other brands to try: ECCO, Clarks (which has a bunch of different lines that fit in different ways), Stonefly, Geox, Rockport. I don't have firsthand experience of their men's shoes, but I do have experience with most of those brands' women's lines and they've all been positive. I can only imagine that the comfort and support in the women's shoes from these brands is equalled by the men's.
Another thought (if you haven't already) is to see an orthopedist and ask if there's an option for you to get some custom orthotics that might help. Obviously, you'd still need shoes that the orthotics would fit in, and I'm not sure about the specifics, but I know my orthotics have helped me greatly. Plus, it's like making every shoe you were a custom-fit shoe. Even if you don't get a custom orthotic, it might help to check out some supportive insoles. Again, an orthopedist should be able to tell you what to look for in inserts to best help your feet.
Finally, here's a link to the Zappos results of men's oxfords that come in EEE widths. Some of them are quite stylish, too! Checking the major shoe sites like Zappos where you can search by width might help. Plus, with free return shipping, it doesn't cost you anything to try out some different pairs and see which ones work.
Good luck with the hunt, and keep us posted on how it all goes.
If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot? --Gloria Steinem