Being Open Minded

[shoeguy2008]

In a test to see how open minded women are about shoes I was wondering how many of you would date a guy who wore high heels on a regular basis? Why or why not?

My girlfriend used to let me then decided she didn't like it any more so she took away the privelage and now I am trying to work her back into it. Any ideas on how to do this?

[galligator]

OMgosh. This is such potentially explosive relationship issue I don't know any easy answer. How important is this to you? Is she likely to budge or change her mind? Married couples are known to go to counseling on more mundane issues than this, it seems like there's likely to be a lot of high emotions from both of you on this. In addition, relationships where priviledges can be 'taken away' have other issues that I'm not really qualified to deal with.

The only thing I can say is that you need to have honest communication with your girlfriend. Only then can you decide what your appropriate actions and responses will need to be.

Best Luck.

[iSlingback]

Personally, I love my husband. There is nothing he could do that would make me leave..I don't think. If he felt this was what he needed to feel whole..I wouldn't really have a problem with it. I know some folks would find that weird, but I love him.

[Briheels]

Oh yes. You have to be open minded to wear high heeled boots, when youre a man. I do enjoy it and brigns a great deal of pleasure to my life. I just wonder if any women get into the heels as much as we men do? If you know what I mean....

[galligator]

I do think that for most women, it is such a norm for our gender that women rarely consider heels to the point of it actually reaching 'fetish' state. It's another fashion accessory that happens to incidentally emphasize legs and make a lot of us feel more 'feminine'. We like 'looking better & taller in skirts' as an example.

From what little I have read, the majority of men who wear women's shoe are 'straight' and may have a variety of reasons for wearing these shoes - from aesthetic preferences to more fetishitic associations. That is a lot of issues particularly for many female partners in a relationship to sometimes deal with, especially if she is super traditional or conservative; it may be seen as threatening to her even if she doesn't consciously understand why she feels that way, or even that this is how she is reacting.

It may seem silly that clothing choice could affect relationships, but right or wrong, some apparel carry strong gender associations of masculine/feminine & not everyone can easily work past that.

Just some thoughts.